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This article about the 6 principles for more passion and energy in marriage got me thinking today.  It got me thinking about what my ideals and thoughts were about marriage before actually tying the knot, and how things differ now, almost two years later.

Has it been all sunshine and happiness?  No.  Not in the least.  We’ve had some very emotional and deep arguments.  We’ve hit some terribly complicated rough patches.  We’ve been bored and felt like every day has turned into the same.  It definitely hasn’t been as easy as I thought it was going to be going into it all.  What people say is true, “Things are different when you’re married.  Things aren’t always easy, even though you’ve been together for a very long time and even lived together for years already.”

I didn’t believe those words then.  I thought, “How different can things be?  How can a piece of paper change everything?” But somehow, things are different and that piece of paper changed everything.

Things are somehow more real.  More concrete.  I can’t be selfish and focused soley on myself, even if I want to.  I have to think as part of a couple now moreso than I ever did in the past.  When things get monotonous it feels more personal now than before.

But what I’ve realized is that no matter what, I have a man who will stand behind me, always.  Through thick and thin.  In good times and in bad.  And he really does.  I lost my job and he was the first person to console me and tell me how much bullshit the whole situation was.  He didn’t question my morals and workplace ethics like most everyone else was doing.  He didn’t succumb to the nasty rumors flying around.  He took my word and knew that I was telling the truth.

When I was diagnosed with Behcet’s, he was there to wait on me hand and foot when I couldn’t get out of bed.  He took care of me and didn’t question it.

We have fun.  We have common interests, but still are different enough to keep things lively.  We both want the same things out of life and strive to reach those goals together.

So when things are feeling like they could be better, I just remind myself that I have the most caring and loving husband a woman could ask for right by my side.  Nobody could love me like he loves me.

And that’s priceless.